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Getting Uncomfortable | Personal Reflections

This post was re-posted in part of the Weeks of Self Blog Series that started on November 16th. For more information about the other posts and contributors, go here .


Sometimes getting uncomfortable requires finding the strength within yourself you didn’t know you had.  

Being comfortable has always been the ultimate goal for me.  The mentality was to pursue a life in the safe lane to minimize failures, rejection, and disappointment.  I was the quiet girl in high school that never spoke up for fear of sounding silly or being rejected.  I was the one that never asked for what I really wanted because I was afraid of hearing the answer, “no”.  I resisted anything that went against the grain and passed up countless opportunities that required taking any risks.  In my head it, putting myself in uncomfortable positions wasn’t worth the trouble and I was better off blending in and going with flow.

The problem with that mentality was that I was living the status quo and not realizing my true potential.  Day after day, it was a constant battle between my heart and mind.  The desires were always there to cast my fears aside and go after what I wanted, but my inner critic would be there all the time convincing me to remain bottled up.  Mentally, it wasn’t a good place to be and I could feel my dreams dying inside the more I resisted them.

To now be living a life where the faith I have in myself is always being tested and showing determination and fearlessness to follow my dreams is beyond anything I could’ve imagined for myself.  Evolving outside of my comfort zone has taken me places and has transformed me into someone that I am proud of.   I am still a work in progress and I still have far to go but I know that I am headed in the right direction.  The thing is, we are all afraid of failure, rejections, and disappointments; those things suck!  But what I realized is that putting ourselves in positions of vulnerability opens us up to something much more than just a bruised ego. The rewards are triumph, strength, and joy for believing in yourself enough to take a chance.  It’s like what my friend and photographer Marie Lyssa once said, going after what you want is like sticking your face out for everyone to see, you might get a few slaps but eventually someone will see your value and say yes.

I’ll leave you with a mantra that I say to myself whenever I find my fear is taking over; “Get Uncomfortable, Remain Faithful”.  To me, that means you must challenge your fears and have faith in your heart that everything will fall into place.

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Me strolling the streets of Paris, France 2011.  Photo taken by Jennifer Romero.  

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Reader Comments (7)

"To now be living a life where the faith I have in myself is always being tested and showing determination and fearlessness to follow my dreams is beyond anything I could’ve imagined for myself." I feel exactly the same way. Its funny how sometimes you end up in the very position you were doing everything in your power to avoid and to discover that its exactly where you are supposed to be.

April 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterFaith

I love your mantra. You're definitely not alone, and I'm sure there are lots of people out there who need this inspiration. Glad you found your path and glad that I met you!

April 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLee Ann

we've all been in uncomfortable situations at one point or another. i know i have! thanks for the inspirational words!

April 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterErika

I am so glad you have become "comfortable" with being uncomfortable! It is definitely allowing you to follow your dreams passionately. I'm so glad! It is easy to take the path of least resistance, but so much more rewarding to take a chance on that unbeaten path. Keep it up, and keep surrounding yourself with people who will cheer you on and be there for you when those risks get scary. You will ALWAYS come out on the other side, and better for the experiences you have had whether the outcomes were what you'd hoped for or not so much. What does not break us makes us stronger.

Love that photo of you, too, great shot, Jen!

April 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMandie

Hi Ariane,

I love the following quote from Eleanor Roosevelt.

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do." ~Eleanor Roosevelt

Yes - it's important to get comfortable with getting uncomfortable. Love this post and love the beautiful shot of you!

April 26, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMadeline

Hey Ariane it's me again. I LOVE LOVE this post. I feel exactly the same way you do, the only difference between me and you is that I have not found a way to break out of my comfort zone. To be honest it is quite lonely and boring where I am at. I desire so much to join you in your space. But I don't know how. Please don't stop these post, they really are uplifting and encouraging. Thank you for being a friend even if it's only thru cyber space...


May 4, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterjaime

To all, thank you from the bottom of my heart for reading and sharing your heartfelt words with me. It's the hardest thing to put yourself out there but it starts with being comfortable with vulnerability. We are all capable of great things; fear has NO power over us whatsoever.

@Jaime, you're seriously touching my heart right now with your comment. Thank you so much! Please know that I am sending you positive vibes and strength so that you can step out past your fears and be all that you were meant to be in this world. Hugs!!

May 6, 2011 | Registered CommenterAriane

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